We live in a world full of comparisons, don’t we?
Sometimes they help us find our direction, almost like an internal compass checking, “Am I on track?”
And sometimes… they can feel heavy, divisive, or quietly hurtful.

When comparison is used unconsciously or without sensitivity, especially within families, it can leave lasting imprints.

And here’s the thing:
Comparisons begin far earlier than we realise.

I show up here to share from the heart.
Authentic. Real. No filters. No pretending.
No “scammy” hooks or shiny tricks. Just the lived experience of a practitioner who has spent 39 years listening to babies, attuning to children, guiding parents, and honouring the early emotional imprints that shape us all.

Any man can say he has a wife and children…
But there’s something beautifully different about the men who truly live fatherhood — the ones who show up as faithful partners, caring hands-on dads, and steady emotional anchors in their families.

And thankfully, I’m seeing more and more of these dads in my practice.

If there is one thing I’ve learned across my 39 years of working with babies and their families, it’s this:

Touch isn’t a luxury for a baby. It’s a lifeline.

For nine months, a baby is cocooned in the most exquisitely sensory environment imaginable.
They are held, cradled, swayed, rocked, rhythmically massaged from the inside by Mum’s breathing, heartbeat, and movements.

And babies feel far more than we often realise.

Every so often, a piece of research comes along that makes me pause, smile gently, and think, “Yes… this helps us understand our little ones even better.”

I’ve been reading a recent article from Neuroscience News, which shares new findings about how early development unfolds and what might influence conditions like Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). And don’t worry — I’m not here to bury you in complicated scientific terms. My goal, as always, is to translate the science into something comforting, usable, and empowering for parents.

The clocks have changed, the evenings are shorter, and daylight disappears before we know it… but your child’s need to move, play, and release energy hasn’t changed at all. 🌙

Even in the cooler, darker months, it’s so important to help children unwind and regulate their nervous systems before sitting down for homework or bedtime. Movement, play, and laughter are how the body resets from a busy day — no matter their age.

In my four decades of working with babies, children, and parents, I’ve learned that feeding challenges are rarely just about feeding. They’re often the body’s first way of saying, “I don’t feel safe yet.”

From the very first moments of skin-to-skin contact, warmth, and nourishment, your baby’s nervous system begins forming its earliest imprint of safety and connection.

As we step into the Christmas season, many of us are thinking about gifts — the giving, the receiving, the wrapping, the unwrapping… and sometimes the stress that goes with it!
But underneath all the glitter and bustle lies something much deeper:

Connection.
Belonging.
Being thought of.
Being held — emotionally or physically.

I’m truly delighted and deeply grateful for the response to my book "What is My Child Telling Me, That I’m Not Getting…..Yet?"

The stories, reflections, and heartfelt messages that have poured in—mostly from mums—have been nothing short of moving. So many have told me how the book opened their eyes, not only to their child’s cues but to their own birth story and early childhood. It’s been humbling and affirming.

But here’s something interesting—and just a bit cheeky!

A number of dads have proudly told me they ordered the book… and then gave it straight to their wives to read.

Now, hold on a minute. What’s that about?

When it comes to giving birth, every woman deserves to feel empowered, informed, and supported. But time and time again, I hear stories from women who felt led—not by intuition or understanding—but by fear and outdated narratives.

"I booked my C-section as soon as I found out I was pregnant. Too many of my friends had traumatic births that ended in emergency sections."

These aren’t just casual comments—they’re reflections of deep societal conditioning and fear-driven beliefs passed down through generations. But we need to ask… safe according to whom? And where is the balanced information that includes both the benefits and the risks?

I remember often hearing the phrase, "Smile – it might never happen!" as a little girl. I didn’t really understand what it meant, but I do remember how it made me feel—awkward, confused, and just a little bit ashamed.

People would comment that I was “a serious child” or “too sensitive.” My mother, often within earshot, would explain to others that I was “highly strung.” These descriptions stuck. And they stung.

Looking back, I realise now these comments were more than throwaway lines. They were forms of objectification. Labels. Misunderstandings.

As a mum of three grown children in their late 20s and early 30s, I find myself facing something I never really prepared for.

I’ve completed countless professional courses over the years—many with certificates proudly displayed—but nowhere in the curriculum was there a module titled: Empty Nest Syndrome 101. Or “Mum Now Surplus to Requirements”. If there had been, I might have paid more attention.

As a parent, have you ever felt a little afraid of your own child?
Not in a dramatic sense, but in those quiet moments where their intensity, unpredictability, or overwhelm seems... a bit too much?

If you’re nodding quietly right now—you’re not alone. I’ve seen this more times than you might think.

The instructor was showing the children how to use those bright, floaty pool noodles—sliding them behind their shoulders and under their arms so they could lean back, rest their heads, and kick their legs freely in the water. A simple enough movement, you’d think.

But several children visibly struggled. Can you guess why?

From the moment a baby is born, they seek closeness. It is not just a preference—it is a biological necessity. We are designed to keep our infants close. Even while we sleep, our bodies instinctively monitor, nurture, and respond to our babies. This proximity is not just about comfort; it is fundamental to their survival, brain development, and emotional security.